For what control is worth

Control. Control sometimes has a negative connotation. Control. Why do we allow another person to control our emotions? We all do, every day. We give other people the permission to control our emotions and feelings, we let them invade our personal space.

 
Here is an example: Drivers in Vancouver blow their horns a lot quicker than drivers in Nova Scotia. It is a different setting on the streets, I understand, yet it is very striking. We were driving today and a tow trucker blocked the road right in front of us trying to tow a car away. Drivers started honking their horns, wanting the towtrucker to move faster to get out of the way. I could see their expressions, they were getting angry and mad at this person who is trying to do his job on a busy street. People started swearing to themselves but also at the trucker. Those people, who got angry, let the truck driver control their feelings. Yes, he is blocking the road, but can I help it? What can I do so everyone gets home faster? Maybe somebody had a bad day and his emotional level is somewhere in the valley, maybe another person was right on the peak of a mountain. And they let this man take over their feelings. They allowed him to invade their space and they got mad about a simple and ordinary incident. All of a sudden, you don’t find yourself on the peak anymore, you find yourself in the valley, not because screwed up yourself, just because there was a person blocking your way and instead of taking it easy and stopping negative emotions to go by, you pick them right up and your focus is on something so ordinary and unimportant.

I think we all let other people control our feelings and emotions too much. I am not taking myself out of this, I am trying to be good though. I can see people rambling on about things that are not worthy to even talk or get mad about. It’s those little things that tend to make our day or totally screw our day up. Is wasting our energy and focus on unimportant things really worth it?
I am not saying we should never get mad. Everybody has a right to show emotions, happiness, anger, sadness… and share them. If one is into a project and something goes wrong, of course one is allowed to get frustrated, but don’t let those negative little things make your day. They are not worth it. The very second we start getting mad about unimportand things we can’t even change, we give up the control of our emotions.

My collegue Kat and I thought this was an important thought to think about. And now it is your turn to think about it! If you would like to share it with me, I would be more than happy to read a comment or a message!

Speaking of control, I would like you to listen to this:

Andrea Gibson – Blue Blanket http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QseP3R8b-3E

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For what control is worth. Control starts within and makes its way around. We all need to be in control of ourselves and know how to get it back once we have lost it.